We had mom’s funeral today. It was beautiful, sad, sweet, joyful, heart wrenching. It had all the feelings. It was a service that did honour to mom’s memory, including the most beautiful eulogy given by my uncle.
Last night when we were out with my Ontario relatives, and again today from my uncle (mom’s brother) I was made aware of the common theme that runs on both sides of my family.
Hold your loved ones dear, give whenever you can, never give up, always reach out in kindness, live with grace and dignity.
That was how both of my parents lived, and they were perfectly paired together to express this way of life.
I really, really miss her; but I have this huge sense of peace that she’s with Dad.
I was so worried today that I’d feel so alone, but my tribe surrounded me and carried me through the entire ceremony and reception after. With every deep breath and eye dab I was constantly aware that I was not alone. I was told that, it was transferred in hugs, it was said with sad smiles. I even offered myself up for adoption to the neighbours (they accepted but I think they thought I was kidding. They’ll be surprised when we show up for supper!”
There was so much love in that church, and it was so fitting. That’s how both mom and dad lived their lives. They made close connections to the people around them and offered love and kindness whenever possible.
I am so incredibly grateful for all the love and support from all of our friends and family. That is true soul happiness.
And a bonus happiness is the 18th birthday of my dear nephew. He’s a great kid and now he’ll be a great adult.