A year ago this morning at 2am I got the call from Tanya at the hospital that mom had let go and gone to join dad in heaven.
I remember our middle of the night drive in when I turned to my sister and said we are orphans! And she responded with Im too young to be an orphan! I totally agreed. I don’t feel equipped to not have parents.
But what a lot I’ve learned in a year.
First I learned how much mom did, how much she helped us grieve, and how much estate work she did when dad died. I felt like my sister and I were a part of that process, but now what we’ve been doing it ourselves I realize how much mom did. And how she was there to lean on when we grieved.
I’ve learned how important my sister is to me. I don’t know how I would have made it through without her to cry and laugh with. I feel like our friendship has deepened in a way it wouldn’t have without sharing this grief together.
I’ve learned how fortunate I am to come from this tribe. My family and my friends have carried me through some dark days and brightened my smile on some lighter ones. We cannot do this thing called life alone.
I’ve learned how incredibly important my faith is.
I’ve learned how to say goodbye whether I want to or not.
And I’ve learned that at the end of the day all there is is love 💕. The rest is just noise.